Faith, conviction and a truckload of patience

Relationships are funny.

Only in hindsight.  But funny nonetheless. 

Relationships are bonds between two or more people.  They connect minds, connect bodies, connect hearts. They are like invisible threads that tie people together. But I've learnt that you can never take anything for granted or for face value. These threads may be invisible but some are made of cotton, some of elastic and others made of steel. One can never know which one it is until someone tries to cut it. These relationships also come with a side order of compromise which is more often than not mistaken as sacrifice. I've made that mistake.

Anyone who knows me, and I mean really knows me, would know that when I go in -I go all in. Maybe that makes me hyper.  Perhaps I seem obsessed.  But that is who I am. Passionate. That is what I am.

"Chill out"

"Relax"

I'd be a millionaire if I had a buck for every time someone said these words to me. At first I never took it seriously. But as time does to most things, It wore me down. I second guessed myself. Maybe they're right.....maybe I should change....these people are my friends,  they only want what's best for me...right? Wrong. I tried to "relax". I made an attempt to "chill". My passion faded slowly and surely and I left with just the shell of a person I used to be. I was empty and suddenly lost. Where were my friends then?

People will as always tell me what's wrong with me. But if I keep changing to suit others, somewhere along the way I will lose myself. Nothing is worth sacrificing who I am. This got me thinking. Why on earth am I sacrificing anything at all?!

I deserve to be surrounded by people who will feed my passion instead of letting it fizzle out. People who won't tell me to "Chill" or "Relax" because they accept me the way I am without expecting anything different. Everybody deserves this.

So no. I will not change. And neither should you.  Because at the end of the day we all have only ourselves to live with. And when we believe in our selves....eventually others will too. Thus formed are the relationships that are golden and everlasting with threads of titanium.  No sacrifice necessary. It sounds like a pretty good deal. All we need is faith, conviction and a truckload of patience.